Updated: Dec 2, 2020
Negative thoughts are mental chatter which usually are demoralizing and demotivating in nature. They can be aroused due to an outward experience or an internal thought process. Our brain has a tendency to dwell over negativity more due to a phenomena called negativity bias which means we tend to focus more on what is not working in our life than what is working even if the not so pleasant part might be just 20% of our daily Life! We can get stuck in a negative thought loop which prevents us to live a joyful life. But it can be overcomed with effort. Following tools can be used to overcome negative thoughts:
1. Watch your Thoughts
Instead of flowing with the thoughts and getting trapped in the negative thought loop, it is important to watch your thoughts as an observer. Writing about your thoughts will help you gain clarity.
Don't resist negative thoughts. Just become an observer of them. When you detach yourself from your own thoughts, it becomes easier for you to manage it. Try looking at your negative thoughts. When do they come frequently? Does something trigger them or it has become habitual for you to have them? Can you do something about the negative situation? If yes, then what would be the next step? If no, then just let the thought about it pass. Like a sheep that has gone astray from a herd, your mind also tends to go astray in a negative zone. Like a shepherd, bring it back with Love.
2. Replace the Words
Words are like seeds for our mind. The quality of seed you will sow in your mind, those kind of thoughts you will have which in turn will shape your Reality. Hence replace the negative self talk with the correct words. Instead of saying, "I always get late", " I am so fat", "I never get promotion", "I am not able to wake up early" ,"I have depressive genes", "I will never be Happy", "I am stupid", etc, replace the statements with words like these, "I used to get late but I am able to manage my time better now", "My body is in great shape", "I get promoted easily", "I have a Happy Demenour", "I am very smart" etc. Our mind believes both negative & positive. If we program it with the right words, it will believe that and your body will reflect that vibration. Our mind is like a sponge. It will absorb and soak whatever you feed it repeatedly.
Visualise what you want instead of what you don't want. For example, you have been in the wrong relationships back to back. Your thought process might have become like, "I always attract wrong people in my Life". Instead of this, visualise having positive & uplifting people and relations. Make a vision board by sticking pictures of what you desire on a big board. When you make a vision board, your imagination starts taking physical shape which brings you close to your reality. Also, whenever you look at it, thank it as if you have already achieved it. Another example could be a thought like , "I am never going to lose weight". So visualise having a slim and fit body. Thank the Universe for the body you have and visualise how having a fit body feels like. Doing this daily can have lasting effects!
Gratitude is a power mantra for all the positivity. See the gift in every situation. See the blessing in every negative situation. When your mind learns to focus on what is the good in any situation, it vibrates at a high energy which makes you feel upbeat and reduces the negative thoughts!
5. Take Care of You
Be kind to yourself. Don't be a victim of discouraging negative self talk. Thoughts have power to affect your attitude